Below are some basic instructions for using a strap-on device. But if you need a little more detail, just keep reading to find some extra tips and suggestions for how to spice things up sexually for you and your partner. The guide below explains how to wear a strap-on dildo.
Step 1: Separate the O-ring from the harness
Carefully remove the O-ring from the harness. Make sure to check the O-ring to ensure that it is in perfect condition without signs of erosion or damage. All of this comes down to lining the O-ring up perfectly, which is what holds your dildo to the harness. The stability and safety of an O-ring during its use will be compromised if it looks distended or has tears or any sort of damage, which means it may not be able to fit tightly. If something does go wrong, holding onto a spare O-ring could be beneficial.
Step 2: Insert the dildo through the harness’s O-ring
Gently slide the dildo through the O-ring of the harness. The dildo should slide in smoothly and evenly. To ensure a sensible fit, take note of the way the dildo matches the O-ring if they have a form or texture. Some dildos have a flared base or other notable features that you will need to align correctly to fit securely in the O-ring. Feel free to use mild force to get the dildo through, but do not force it excessively, as it risks breaking the dildo or the o-ring.
Step 3: Clip the ring to your harness with a metal snap
Once you have pushed the dildo through the O-ring, attach the other side of the ring to the harness using the metal clip you provided. Make sure the clasp is fastened properly. Make sure the connection is tight, and there’s no wiggle or play that could cause the dildo to come loose while it’s in use. A loose fastener during sexual activity could create an unhelpful, if not dangerous, situation. You might want to double-check the snap’s bucking quality—twist on the dildo to ensure it is locked into place.
Step 4: Put on that harness the same way you’d put on pants or underwear
You wear it the same way you would put on underwear or pants. Start by stepping into the leg openings and then pulling the harness up to your hips. Be sure you allow yourself more than enough time to get the harness adjusted to your liking. Make sure it is balanced and nice on your hips. Too much rigidity can cause discomfort during use, so the harness should be safe but not overly abundant. You can make the preliminary adjustments to the harness’s adjustable straps to ensure a basic fit before moving on to the next steps.
Step 5: Find Your Belt in the Right Place for Your Hip Bones
Then, adjust the girth of the harness so that it’s snug against your pelvic bones. It’s strapped on around the hips, and the dildo should fit snugly into a socket in this belt. You may need to adjust the belt depending on the size/tab that your body requires. 2. Secure the belt and adjust — Use the buckle or other types of adjustment mechanisms to get a secure and comfortable fit. Make sure that the belt is not twisted or jammed in any way; it can affect the harness’s functionality and comfort. Also, the fit of the belt can be tested by moving around to check if it stays in position and doesn’t migrate during a movement.
Step 6: Adjust the thigh straps one at a time, until the device is sitting snug against your pubic bone
Right now, work on the thigh harnesses exclusively. Start by tightening or loosening one thigh strap until the device is snug against your pubic bone. Perform this again with the other buttock strap. Important to note are Dyneema thigh buckles designed to prevent the thigh harness from being supported too far. Adjust the tension so that the dilator remains in a state of stable equilibrium while still allowing for comfortable movement. You may bend your legs and walk around a little to make sure the thigh harnesses are fitted correctly and the device is tightening. Make any necessary adjustments to ensure a proper fit.
Lube the hell out of the dildo
Before moving on, be sure to lubricate the dildo thoroughly. Use a good-quality water-based lube during insertion to ensure smoothness to your comfort level while having sex. Distribute the lubricant evenly across the entire surface of the dildo, paying special attention to the crown and any textured areas. Proper lubrication not only enhances the enjoyment level of the experience overall, it also reduces the chances of causing distress or injury due to friction. If you are not used to a strap-on device or expect a lengthy sexual session, it can be OK to put a decent amount of lubricant on.
Now, put the dildo in the partner’s insert the penis in partner
After completing all the steps leading up to insertion and feeling ready to proceed with penetrative sex, gently insert the dilator into your partner’s vagina while holding onto the dilator with your other hand. Keep communicating so that your partner is comfortable with and in support of this process. Find gentle, soft movements and let your partner get used to the feeling. You can use your hand to guide the dilator, which will help you control the depth and speed of insertion. You can start increasing the intensity and flow of movements as you grow more comfortable and interested in the process, keeping in mind you must not go beyond your partner’s consent.
Step 9: Have Hands-Free Strap-On Sex
Once implanted, you get the hands-free experience of strap-on intercourse. This allows you to participate in more of the body press and touch with your partner and more freedom of movement. Your sex life can be improved for both you and your partner by trying different positions and movements. Try different positions and angles when you penetrate to find what feels best and most satisfying. Make sure to communicate with your partner to ensure that both of you are having a good time!
Let us say that you have purchased a generic universal harness that buckles in the front via a metal clip and O-ring. If the fabric doesn’t have a clasp, the instructions for attaching the dildo can be left out. Some vibrators and dildos make great harness apps. Unfortunately, these products are often hidden within their categories and not always found under strap-on-suitable products. In this section we will focus on what to look out for when designing your own harness system However, when you’re using a harness, you need to look for things that are the right size and configuration for the O-ring on the harness that you have picked. The base diameter of the dildo must be large enough to have a secure connection in the O-ring. In addition, the dildo itself needs to be made of a material that is considered safe for sexual use and safe for your body. Choose dildos that use medical-grade silicone and body-safe materials. The vibrators need to be big enough and have a sturdy enough bottom to attach to the harness while being able to remain functional. You might also want to assess the intensity levels of the vibrator and vibration patterns to further enhance your sexual experience. When designing your own harness system, it is also imperative to take into account the overall quality and durability of the harness. Look for harnesses made from sturdy but comfortable materials, with secure attachment systems and adjustable straps. The needlework and construction must be top-notch to ensure that the harness can withstand the rigors of sex. Considering these factors allows you to create a strap-on experience that will be safe and pleasurable for both you and your partner.